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Domestic Violence = Abuse

Posted on 20 April, 2012 at 17:22
Ladies, it is not O.K. to be subjected to any form of abuse; whether it’s physical and/or verbal abuse. Verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse; the only difference is there are no visible physical wounds from on-going verbal abuse. The damage from verbal abuse is internal and over a period of time it becomes external affecting every area of your life, even your children can be affected by living in an abusive environment than can possibly cause some physical and psychological conditions in the present as well as in the future. Often times the change in the abused victim is gone undetected by the victim themselves. It doesn’t matter if you’re married or single, any form of abuse is not acceptable nor should it be tolerated. God did not create you to be used and abused, He created you to love and to be loved in accordance with God’s true definition of true love that can be found in His Holy Word 1:Corinthians 13.
Some abuse victims give themselves many excuses why they choose to stay in an abusive relationship, such as; I’ve vowed to stay  married until death do us part; we have a lot invested in each other, I don’t have a job or any income; I’m staying for the kids so that they won’t grow up in a single parent home like I did; I love him and I know he loves me; he’ll change; I do provoke him at times; he was there for me at the lowest point of my life; he takes care of me and the kids; he won’t make it without me; he’s the only man for me; my mother stayed with my father and they fought all the time; and I don’t have anywhere else to go.  These are just some of the reasons I’ve read and heard why some women stay in abusive relationships.
Any form of abuse is not only damaging, but often times in the news we hear how many abusive relationships turn deadly. The abuser is seeking control of you, want to destroy your self-esteem, keep you away from family and friends, control what you wear and where you go, all in an attempt to totally control you and make you co-dependent of them. When the abuser feels that he’s not winning in controlling you, the abuse begins. They begin to use abusive words towards you, threatens to do harm to you, approaches you out of you name, degrads you and diminish your self-worth.  Often times abuse starts verbally, and overtimes it almost always ends in physically abuse.
I’ve never married, but I have been in an abusive relationship early on in my life. I think God for giving me the strength and courage to get out before something devastated happened.
Sometimes, we as women, believe that the abuser will change. Although change is possible, the abuser has to first, recognize what he is doing is wrong and STOP; second, he has to want to change; and thirdly, he has to want to seek help to help him change.
Please ladies know that it is not your fault if you are being abused, for some may not have had any idea or have ever viewed their relationship as being abusive until now. God wants and calls for all of his children to live in peace not confusion; free and not in bondage and fear. 
If you are experiencing any of these signs of being in an abusive relationship, try to find a safe place where your abuser is not around and  PLEASE, PLEASE LADIES SEEK HELP TODAY!!!
 There are many national resources out there to help you. See resources below:
Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE or 7273
The Alcohol & Drug Addiction Resource Center: 1 800 390 4056
May God perfect all that concerns you…you are beautiful. God Bless you!!!

Categories: April 2012