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|Posted on 5 May, 2012 at 14:06||comments (3)|
|Posted on 20 April, 2012 at 17:22||comments (4)|
Ladies, it is not O.K. to be subjected to any form of abuse; whether it’s physical and/or verbal abuse. Verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse; the only difference is there are no visible physical wounds from on-going verbal abuse. The damage from verbal abuse is internal and over a period of time it becomes external affecting every area of your life, even your children can be affected by living in an abusive environment than can possibly cause some physical and psychological conditions in the present as well as in the future. Often times the change in the abused victim is gone undetected by the victim themselves. It doesn’t matter if you’re married or single, any form of abuse is not acceptable nor should it be tolerated. God did not create you to be used and abused, He created you to love and to be loved in accordance with God’s true definition of true love that can be found in His Holy Word 1:Corinthians 13.
Some abuse victims give themselves many excuses why they choose to stay in an abusive relationship, such as; I’ve vowed to stay married until death do us part; we have a lot invested in each other, I don’t have a job or any income; I’m staying for the kids so that they won’t grow up in a single parent home like I did; I love him and I know he loves me; he’ll change; I do provoke him at times; he was there for me at the lowest point of my life; he takes care of me and the kids; he won’t make it without me; he’s the only man for me; my mother stayed with my father and they fought all the time; and I don’t have anywhere else to go. These are just some of the reasons I’ve read and heard why some women stay in abusive relationships.
Any form of abuse is not only damaging, but often times in the news we hear how many abusive relationships turn deadly. The abuser is seeking control of you, want to destroy your self-esteem, keep you away from family and friends, control what you wear and where you go, all in an attempt to totally control you and make you co-dependent of them. When the abuser feels that he’s not winning in controlling you, the abuse begins. They begin to use abusive words towards you, threatens to do harm to you, approaches you out of you name, degrads you and diminish your self-worth. Often times abuse starts verbally, and overtimes it almost always ends in physically abuse.
I’ve never married, but I have been in an abusive relationship early on in my life. I think God for giving me the strength and courage to get out before something devastated happened.
Sometimes, we as women, believe that the abuser will change. Although change is possible, the abuser has to first, recognize what he is doing is wrong and STOP; second, he has to want to change; and thirdly, he has to want to seek help to help him change.
Please ladies know that it is not your fault if you are being abused, for some may not have had any idea or have ever viewed their relationship as being abusive until now. God wants and calls for all of his children to live in peace not confusion; free and not in bondage and fear.
If you are experiencing any of these signs of being in an abusive relationship, try to find a safe place where your abuser is not around and PLEASE, PLEASE LADIES SEEK HELP TODAY!!!
DON’T BE ASHAME TO SEEK HELP AND TALK TO SOMEONE.
There are many national resources out there to help you. See resources below:
Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE or 7273
The Alcohol & Drug Addiction Resource Center: 1 800 390 4056
May God perfect all that concerns you…you are beautiful. God Bless you!!!
|Posted on 18 April, 2012 at 8:56||comments (37)|
We all desire to be satisfied in life. A constant state of mind of being content in all things; in our relationships, with our jobs, and in our successes in life. However, in our daily living, we will at some point and time encounter situations that challenge our state of mind of contentment.
The dictionary defines satisfied as:
1. content somebody: to do or offerenough to make somebody feel pleased or content;
2. fulfill need: to fulfill a need or gratify deire; and
3. meet condition: to achieve or be of sufficient standard to meet a requirement or condition.
In life, at some point, we all will experience one or more of these emotions: grief, frustration, disappointment, disagreements, betrayal and etc., as we desperately seek and desire to be content… satisfied in all areas of our lives. When we experience life altering situations, our emotions, undoubtedly, will fluctuate. So therefore, is it at all possible to be at a state of contentment in life, seeing as though our experiences of life fuels our emotions? The answer is an astounding yes.
I have discovered that if we totally depend upon our senses through our life experiences, that is, what we see, hear and feel for fulfillment in life we will never reach a constant state of satisfaction. In contrast, we cannot look to things on the outside to bring us complete fulfillment in life. These earthly things are subject to change and dissapointment us at any given time.
The one and only sure thing that will never change, and will keep you in a state of mind of contentment is the love of Christ. He is the same yesterday, today and forevermore. Heaven and earth will pass away, but His Word – His promises shalll stand forever.
As human beings, we tend to look at people, places and things to bring us contentment - complete satisfaction. Most of us, when we get a little blue, we may decide to go shopping, be around friends,and/or get involved in activities, all of these are good and will bring you a minimum level of satisfaction; it’s better than sitting around the house feeling blue in isolation indulging in overnight pity parties; however, these things will not completely satisfy you because your emotions, your level of satisfaction is now co-dependent upon these things. Theses things are a temporary fix - temporary therapy. These people, places and things are subject to change and dissapointment you and will not always be available to reach out to and/or indulge in at your time of need.
For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart (Hebrews 4:12). Through the Word of God, in all its truths, when we face life altering situations, riding on the roller-coaster of our emotions, we can maintain a state of mind of contentment and maintain fulfillment and satisfaction through believing on the promises of God through faith. It is when we put our complete faith and trust in the Word of God, regardless of what we experience in life, we can have peace, joy fulfillment, contentment and satisfaction in all things through faith and trust in Christ Jesus.
I personally have been through some heart wrenching, life altering situations that bought me to my knees in prayer in tears, but only by the grace and mercy of God, believing and trusting in His Word through faith and in His Strength, I became a VICTOR and not a VICTIM!!!
The Apostle Paul has given us His secret in maintaining this state of contentment through the struggles and trials of life:
Philippians4:12-13, I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things. I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to aboundand to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (KJV)
Philippians4:12-13, I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength. (NIV)
The Apostle Paul has given us the secret, the key of being and staying content; it is through not leaning on our own strength, but leaning on the strength of God, which is found in His living Word. For the Word of God is life, it's powerful, and sharper than any two edge sword transfroming the heart, mind and soul of man reflecting the image of Christ Jesus.
Believe and trust in Him (God) and you will be able to navigate through life’s ups and downs with a state of mind of contentment and omplete satisfaction with joy strengthen by the power of His glorious might in your inner man.
|Posted on 14 April, 2012 at 9:58||comments (25)|